You can not please all people all of the time,

Introduction

I was recently asked to write an article about how to be happy in a world where we are all expected to have it all. As I started researching the topic, I realized that this is not only a question for me but one for many of us who feel like we are being pulled in many directions - both at work and at home. Our social lives have become ever more complex and demanding. We are exhausted but also resentful because we want to do it all perfectly and can't seem to make time for ourselves.

There is an expectation to over deliver at work.

The expectation that you should over deliver at work is a relatively new phenomenon. In the past, it was just expected for people to do their jobs and fulfill their responsibilities. Now we are expected to be available 24/7, do more with less and be more productive than ever before. Work has become such an integral part of our identity that if we don’t feel challenged or fulfilled by what we do—or if it becomes too repetitive—we tend find ways to change career paths sooner rather than later.

Our social lives have become ever more complex and demanding.

Social media has made it easier for us to stay in touch with friends, family, and acquaintances from all over the world. It makes it possible to see what they are up to, share photos and videos, send messages or comments while at work or on vacation. But when you think about it, social media is just another form of communication between people. It’s simply a new way we communicate with each other—and like any other form of communication, there are good things about it but also bad things that come along with it.

So what does this have to do with you? Well...

We are exhausted and resentful.

We are surrounded by so much information, choices, and expectations. It is easy to feel overwhelmed. We are constantly comparing ourselves to others and setting unrealistic expectations for ourselves. We are trying to be perfect but we will never be.

We can not please everyone all of the time. The only person that you need to please is yourself because if no one else likes what you do then at least it makes you happy!

We are not machines.

You are a human being, not a machine. If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you expect to be the best at what you do?

Learn to say no: It is okay to say no when something doesn’t feel right in your heart or mind. The more we learn to say no and protect our time, the more energy we have for ourselves and those around us!
Take time out for yourself: Make sure that you take time out every day just for yourself — even if it’s just five minutes of meditation; this will help keep stress levels under control so that when things get tough again later on in the day or week then it won’t seem like such an uphill battle since all that negative energy already been dealt with earlier on down the road."

We need to build our own bucket list of what matters most to us in life.

To make a bucket list, we first need to know what our personal values are.

What do you want to achieve in life? What are your dreams? What are your passions? What makes you happy?

Once we have identified our highest priorities, we can begin creating a list of things that will help us achieve them.

Say no, it’s ok.

The first step to living a more productive and satisfying life is saying no.

Saying “yes” is easy, but it can be counter-productive. It leads to overstuffed schedules and being spread too thin. Saying yes means you may have to disappoint someone, or let someone down. That person could be your boss, your spouse or even a friend (or coworker) who needs help with something urgent that you don’t have time for right now. If this happens often enough it could put your career at risk – people start noticing that they never see you anymore because they are always asking for your help on projects that aren't yours!

It's important that we learn how to say no sometimes so we don't get caught up in other people's agendas - as well as our own! Saying no when something doesn't fit into our schedule allows us space where we can focus on our priorities instead of spreading ourselves too thin!

Create a personal happiness manifesto.

A lot of people find themselves in a rut in their lives and careers because they’re chasing things that don't matter to them. But if you write down all the things that are important to you, then it becomes easier to prioritize your life based on what makes you happy. A few years ago I decided to take some time off work and focus on my health and fitness, so I created these three lists for myself:

What qualities do I value most?
What things make me happy?
How can I achieve those things?

Reduce the guilt by looking at the big picture.

When you are overwhelmed with guilt about not being able to meet everyone’s needs, it is important to look at the big picture. We are not machines that can be expected to function at peak performance all of the time. Instead, we need to build our own bucket list of what matters most to us in life and make sure that we prioritize those things above all else. Saying no is ok – in fact, it may be essential if we want our lives to run smoothly!

To help reduce your feelings of guilt and empower yourself, create a personal happiness manifesto detailing what makes you truly happy and how various factors (work, family, friends) impact your happiness quotient. Then use this information as a guide when making decisions about how much time you want devote each day towards each area of your life so that you will feel satisfied with the balance between work-life balance and personal fulfillment. It's also important not only reduce but eliminate negative thoughts about oneself by focusing on positive aspects instead: say three nice things about yourself every day!

If we can learn to be happy with not having it all, it might just leave us with a happier and healthier life.

You can’t always have it all.

Whether you are a parent or not, there will be times when you feel like your needs are not being met. It is okay to say no and allow others to do the same. The important thing is that we learn how to let go and move on without taking everything personally. The world doesn’t revolve around us and this is something we have to learn if we want our relationships with others to work well.

We need time alone so that we can recharge our batteries and become more productive while working alone at home (which I do often). We also need time with other people in order for our relationships with them not to become stale due to lack of interaction between family members/friends etcetera; these types of interactions help keep relationships fresh and alive!

Conclusion

We all have a choice to make as to how we want to live our lives. We can either choose to be consumed with the pursuit of happiness or we can learn how to be happy with not having it all. The choice is up to you, but it’s important that you know the difference between these two approaches: one will leave you feeling empty and unsatisfied while the other can provide a sense of fulfillment by living in balance with yourself and others around you.