happiness is yours for the taking if you’re willing to do the work
Feeling happy is something that we all want to achieve. There are lots of things that we can do to help us feel more positive and less down in the dumps, but one thing that is often forgotten is how easy it is to feel happy. This article will explain how you can make yourself happier by recognising your successes and appreciating what you have done so far in life.
Here are some tips:
Keep a success list.
Celebrate every achievement, no matter how small.
Take responsibility for your mistakes. Don’t blame others, especially if it is not their fault.
Be positive about other people and the world at large - this can make all the difference!
Create a success list. This should not be a wish list; it is the things that you have actually achieved, so write them down.
The next time you are feeling down about yourself and your accomplishments, take a look at your list. You may have forgotten just how much of your life you have actually been successful in.
Keep a diary of your achievements and read them regularly.
It is important to keep a diary of your achievements and read them regularly. It is not just about writing down the wishes, but each time you achieve something you should make it a habit to write it down in your diary and read it frequently.
Celebrate little achievements every day, right down to things like running to catch the bus or remembering to post that letter.
Celebrate little achievements every day, right down to things like running to catch the bus or remembering to post that letter. Celebrating small achievements is important because it helps build your confidence and makes you feel good about yourself. You will be more likely to achieve more in the future if you make a habit of celebrating your successes, no matter how small they may be.
Let someone know when you have achieved something, so they can congratulate you. Feedback from others is important as it reinforces our own feelings of pride and learning.
Praise from others is important, but so are the little things you say to yourself when you have achieved something. Why? You’ll feel more motivated and confident in your abilities, which will help you achieve even more success.
That said, it can be difficult to give ourselves credit for our achievements sometimes—especially if we don't believe in our own abilities yet—so here are some tips on how to get started:
Tell someone else about what you have done and ask them for feedback and encouragement. This will reinforce your feelings of pride and learning.
Take time out each day to reflect on one thing that went well during the day or week, or even just today. It could be something as simple as getting up on time or finishing a task at work early! Make sure it's something positive though (no need to mention that packet of biscuits was a bit stale...) Don't forget to congratulate yourself too—it'll make those times easier next time round!
Take responsibility for your mistakes - don't blame others or make excuses.
Mistakes are a part of life, and we all make them. That being said, it's important to learn from your mistakes so that you can avoid making them again in the future. When something bad happens, take responsibility for it instead of blaming others or making excuses. For example:
Instead of saying "My boss didn't give me enough time to finish this project." You could say: "I should have finished my work on time and taken more breaks during the day."
Instead of saying: "That customer cancelled because they didn't like my product." You could say: "I'm going to have an honest conversation with the customer about why they decided not to buy my product and ask if there's anything I can do differently next time around."
Positivity breeds positivity, so try not to moan in life and focus on the things that you can achieve rather than the things that have gone wrong or are out of your control. As Confucius said "It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop."
Don’t worry about things you cannot change
Focus on the things that you can change
Be positive
Just by writing down what you have achieved will give you confidence and make you feel happier about yourself
Write down the things you have achieved.
Read your list regularly and celebrate each achievement.
Take responsibility for your mistakes, but don't blame others.
Focus on what you can achieve next and plan accordingly.
Conclusion
The key here is to think about what you want before you start working towards it. That way, when things don't go exactly as planned, at least you know that you have made an effort and tried hard enough. Remember, success isn't about reaching your goal - it's about taking the steps towards achieving it.